Me Time.....Where did it go?

I looked at my fingernails today and remembered a time when they used to be manicured.

Now they're chipped and uneven and haven't seen polish - in months.
Then I thought about the days when I had a routine work-out schedule and would regularly attend my favorite classes at the gym...or meet my friends for a latte (white chocolate mocha was my personal choice). I use to read books, flip through magazines (that weren't about parenting and kids) and chat on the phone with old friends.

I can honestly say I haven't done any of those things since Tyler was born...except for one day. My husband gave me a "mommy day" a few months ago. It was so nice! He made an appointment for me to get a manicure and pedicure at my favorite spot, have lunch at a grown-up restaurant with a girlfriend, and go shopping (he even provided me with a gift card). That was a great day! But moms don't get many of those I suspect. At least this mom doesn't.

But I believe I'd be more refreshed, revitalized and a better wife and mother if I did.

I just don't know how to make that time for myself - or even if I want to. I don't have as much time with Tyler as I would like - as it is, and I'm not sure if running off on a Saturday or Sunday for hours of pampering is worth those precious moments I can spend with my family..especially when those are the only two days we have together. Plus, I somehow feel guilty leaving my family behind - to do something for myself. And now that another little guy is on the way...I imagine "mommy time" will really be almost non-existent.

Just this week, Todd asked me if I wanted to go out this weekend for dinner and a movie. In my heart I wanted to say yes, but then I thought about Tyler. So I really didn't give him an answer. But I think I owe it to us as a couple to go.. So that will take care of "Serese and Todd" time...but what about "me" time?

How do you (did you) get moments to yourself...or do you want them?

I can't wait to hear from you.